5 Styles of Conflict Management

Five Styles of Conflict Management 

There are many ways to deal with conflict. Here are five styles to study:

Read each definition. Then, write down in your notebook what the advantages and disadvantages might be for each style.


  1. Avoidance – knowing there is a conflict but choosing not to deal with it. An avoidant type walks away from the problem and may avoid the person with whom they are having the conflict. 


  1. Accommodation – putting aside one’s own needs and concerns to satisfy the needs of the other person. 


  1. Competition – trying to win or make the other person lose by giving in. In this style, a person defends their position or pursues their own goals without regard for the needs of the other person.  


  1. Compromise – giving up something to get something. It is an attempt to seek a middle ground. 


  1. Collaboration – working together to satisfy the needs of both people. It involves problem solving and assumes that both people can get their needs met.  



Think about what style you use most, remembering that you might use different styles for different people. Which style do you use most frequently in a conflict with the following people? Write down all that apply.

  • Spouse/partner:
  • Child/children: 
  • Co-workers: 
  • Boss: 
  • Parents:
  • Siblings:
  • Friends: